Ok...you good? Are you in shock?
I was. ABSOLUTELY. I canNOT get those comments out of my head.
Some of the comments were SO SO SO FUNNY that I literally (seriously, people) had tears running down my face. And then...some of them made me want to seriously cry (and give them huuuge hugs).
What I thought was so crazy was the fact that people felt SO FREE to write whatever they wanted. Free therapy? Maybe. A venting (although kinda scary) session? Ya.
But what I REALLY noticed was not what they had to say. What I noticed was ME. I was judging them. Secretly. At my house. In my bedroom. In my head. Judging away.
Why would someone share that?
Why don't you get out of your marriage then if you feel like you settled?
Why is this person so upset about that?
Why are they so crazy racist?
What. The. Freak.?
Yup. Judgy McJudgerson over here. I couldn't help myself. Even though I have NO IDEA who these people were, I couldn't stop myself from judging them and their secrets. Then, a thought struck me - - maybe I'm the only one who is this judgmental. Maybe THAT should be my secret.
But I don't think I'm alone.
We all do it, right? To our friends. Our families. And you can bet your pants off that we do it to other bloggers.
I have noticed, lately especially, lots and lots of judging among bloggers. Whether you have 10 followers, or 3000. It's there. Some of us, yes, are really good at pretending we don't judge. But we do. Whether it's leaving an anonymous comment, or unfollowing them for xyz reason, or ignoring them on Twitter...it's all judging.
Confession time (not anonymous obviously): I will scroll through my Instagram feed and think...that is such a lame picture...ughh no one cares about your dumb cat...ok if she posts one more pic of her uber expensive shoes she bought I'll scream. Yup. I do it.
Go ahead - say it - GASP! SHOCK! I'm a horrible person! All of the above. Judge away. It's happening in your head right now!
WE don't want to be judged, though. We want everyone to like us and think we are all perfect and have no flaws. When 99.9% of the time - we obviously aren't perfect.
So here's a real thinker for your Friday - we don't want others judging us...so WHY in the heck do we judge other people??!! It's so banana cakes!
SURE, the blogging world is a LOT about blowing sunshine up bloggers butts (as one commenter so forwardly put it). It's about saying "Oh I love your coat" and "You are gorgeous" and "I wish I had your life right now" type of comments. Believe you me...I say those things too. But are we being REAL? Or just trying to BE NICE?
I HEART this blogging world, I truly do. It has given me so many things I never ever thought I would get out of it. But I also want to make sure that I'm living an authentic life.
So, in the words of my mom, I'm going to say this: "IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY...DON'T SAY ANYTHING NICE AT ALL"
Oh...and I'll throw a "AND DON'T SECRETLY JUDGE PEOPLE EITHER" in there too.
My goal is simple: I'm going to TRY super duper extra hard not to judge other people. Because that isn't what this world is about. I wouldn't want someone judging me...and so I won't do it to them.
In conclusion (hehe): Just be nice, people. Don't judge. It IS easier said than done...but I DO think it's possible.
Do you like me a little less now that I've admitted my secret? That's totally fine - I can deal with it. :)
DO YOU JUDGE PEOPLE? WHY DO YOU THINK WE DO IT? WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS?
One more reminder about this AWESOME SAUCE PASSIONFRUIT MIXER tomorrow night!!
UTAH BLOGGERS - I better see your beautiful faces there!!Pin It