But, lots of times...comparison is not such a great thing. I compare myself to lots of things. In my blog, in my shop, with my life and where I'm at...comparing ALL the time. I try not to - but being in this world..I think it's hard NOT TO.
Today, though...I'm talking about comparison with my baby.
It happened without me even really realizing it:
He's one month..he's SUPPOSED to weigh..blah blah blah.
Well that other baby is his age and he's rolling over.
Jake is one month younger than him and he's crawling.
Why isn't he walking yet? Shouldn't he be?
D has always been a little "slower" at doing things. Compared to other babies, he just likes taking his time. Is he dumb? Absolutely not. He's just not in a rush to do anything. He always accomplishes whatever he wants to, but just a little slower than "the normal" (according to the medical profession at least).
But when people (who shall remain nameless) said things like the above to me, it would CRUSH me. I would suddenly start worrying and thinking...SHOULD he be doing that? WHY ISN'T he doing this or that? I
It began to eat me up. I can pretend it isn't there, but it definitely is. That ugly word comparison. To other babies his age. His friends that he plays with. While they play, I silently watch the other kid. Thinking wow...that kid is a lot more active..a lot more talkative..a lot more interactive.
I tried to not let it get to me. But then, one of my "friends" started telling me one day how AWESOME her kid is (who happens to be 2 weeks younger than D). She asked me if D was talking much, and I said yes, kind of. He says a few words, but not a lot yet. She said well, "Frank" is saying SO many words. Then proceeded to list off ALL of the words he could say. I could list them now, but I might throw up because I was so disgusted with her. And still am. The WAY she was saying it...was making me nauseous. Throwing it in my face almost.
Although I was absolutely furious with her, I had to let it go. I can't let comparison steal my JOY. From my awesome baby. Because it's NOT about how many things/words/accomplishments your kid is doing (although some would argue with me).
I guess, what I'm trying to get at, is that if you spend ALL this time focusing on what your child is NOT doing...you miss out on what your child IS doing. And that would be a horrible thing to wake up and realize when they're 21. Instead of NOW.
The other day (December 1) to be exact, I realized just that.
Because D said MAMA for the first time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've been trying to get him to say Mama...well...since Day 1, really. :) But mostly because he's been saying Dada forever...and it's just not fair. Hehe.
There is absolutely NOTHING better than the sound of him saying Mama. Nothing. So I'm enjoying this moment...and want to share it with you guys. Enjoy :)
Do you compare your baby/kids to other babies? How do you stop yourself from doing it?Pin It