March 27, 2012

Mommy Claws

I think every Mom has them. We keep them hidden under our clothes, tucked away, in hopes that we never have to use them. Well yesterday, I had to use mine.

We got a knock on our door yesterday afternoon, and I went to answer it, toting my baby in my arms. It was the "Brown-Van-Delivery-Woman", coming to deliver a package. Usually they just say hi, hand me the package and are on their way. Ohhhh, but not today.

Here is our conversation (bear with me):
Delivery Lady: How are you today?
Me: Just dandy. And you?
DL: Oh, I've been super busy today, just ready to get the day over with.
Me: Oh ok, well hopefully you have an easier day tomorrow!
DL: Well thank you, I will try! Say, how old is your little one?
Me: He just turned 9 months. He's the BEST!
DL: (In a very SHOCKED tone) OH! WHAT IS ON HIS HEAD??!!
Me: Excuse me??
DL: That big brown spot! Oh my gosh! What did YOU DO to him?
Me: Uhhhhhmmm..nothing? That is a birthmark..he has had it since BIRTH!
DL: Oh, that's really unfortunate. He's going to have a really hard time as he grows up. He will probably get made fun of a lot.
Me: (Insert Mommy Claws coming out here) Are you JOKING? I can't believe you just said that.
DL: I just meant that kids will probably pick on him because of that. Wouldn't you want to get that removed?
Me: I cannot BELIEVE I'm having this conversation with you right now. How ignorant can you be? And what RIGHT do you have to judge my baby boy? He will be absolutely fine. Not that it is ANY of your business, but we don't intend to ever get it removed. If only for this reason: so that when he comes in contact with people like you, he can take it as a learning opportunity to be kind no matter what!! I hope the next time you have an opportunity to BLURT out something rude, you don't take it.
DL: Silence.
Me: Have a nice day.
(I shut the door politely, although I really wanted to punch her, and THEN slam the door). 


And SCENE :) 
It was like in "You've Got Mail" where she says, "For the first time in my life, when confronted with a horrible, insensitive person, I knew exactly what I wanted to say and I said it.
Unfortunately, this hasn't been my first instance with someone mentioning something RUDELY about his birthmark...and I know it won't be the last. 

After she left, I went and sat on the couch and just held my baby, and told him how amazingly perfect he was. He laughed and giggled at me, and we went on with our day. In instances like that, it's when I truly know that I COULD let it ruin my whole day, or I COULD just get over it and move on. 


I chose to move on, and my day was better for it. 
It was my first instance with having to use my Claws...and I hope I don't have to use them again for a LONG TIME. 


When was a time that YOU had to sharpen your Mommy Claws? 


Have A BEAUTIFULLY (CLAW FREE) DAY!
Jenna, The Wife


PS---TOMORROW I am doing my first ever VLOG...sooooo NERVOUS for that! :)  Pin It

56 comments:

  1. SOME PEOPLE!!! I do not get the stupidity of some people.

    He's beautiful, and OH MY FREAKING CUTE! I love that last picture with his big grin!

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  2. EW! what a rude little delivery lady.
    i don't condone violence, but i wouldn't have minded if you told me you gave her a mark on her head that looked juuuuust like baby's.

    xx jes

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  3. Oh.My.Heavens. SERIOUSLY? That whole scene does seem like a movie scene because it is so hard to believe that she actually said all of that! Insane! Good for you for letting your mommy claws out. She definitely deserved a reality check. Your little man is absolutely adorable and perfect!

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  4. How ridiculous! What an ignorant person! I am glad you handled it maturely, unlike her! Jeeze, she needs a reality check!

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  5. Wow.

    And GOOD for you for everything you said!

    My daughter (20months) has a red hemangioma on her back, but it hasn't stopped the questions when she's in a sundress or even when someone has held her and feels it on her back, the expression on their faces even changes.

    Your son is adorable! Birthmark and all. Makes him him.
    xoxox

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  6. Awe!!! I have a birthmark on my head too. It's red. It was HUGe in baby pictures but it shrunk with growing up and my hair covered it. He'll be adorable no matter what. And people suck!! Ugh!

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  7. I am sorry you had to deal with someone so insensitive. I hope she takes to heart what you said and really thinks about how rude she was.

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  8. WOW! Some people just drive me up the wall! Those people need to watch out for ME, because I have mommy claws, and I'm not even a mom yet. ;-)

    Davis is perfect, and he has a great mom who will, no doubt, strengthen his character. He will learn from you how to respond with grace even if someone else comments on his birth mark. You are great, Jenna!

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  9. Wow, what a crazy encounter! I think you handled it so well. Your sweet boy is so adorable! I'm not a mom yet, but I definitely have some big sister claws!

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  10. I. Can't. Believe. That! Seriously, so shocked.
    I don't know why it still surprises me how insensitive some people can be. Especially because things like birthmarks are completely natural and VERY common and then they go around and turn it into something negative.

    Your little man is super adorable and is so lucky to have a mama like you to stick up for him (I love that shirt in the first picture too - so cute!)

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  11. So many times when people are rude I can never think of the words to say fast enough and then I leave the situation thinking that they weren't made aware of their actions. It's so great that you were able to get your words and thoughts together to inform her of her ignorant comments.

    Mommy claws are there for a reason!

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  12. O my GOSH!!! I am impressed that you refrained from punching her lol - that is unbelievable! I have a birthmark on my face and usually the only people who bring it up are small children... I can't believe a grown woman can't see how inappropriate that was?!

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  13. Oh my goodness, he is such a beautiful little boy and that woman is crazy. I canNOT believe she'd have the audacity to say those things.

    katelyn-innervision.blogspot.com

    - Katelyn

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  14. Oh my gosh people are so rude! Your little guy is a doll :). A guy at the zoo just said to me, "Ma'am your legs are too short." Really?!

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  15. Awww! He is a precious baby boy! I think you handled yourself in a very classy manner!! Go girl! :)

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  16. WHAT.THE.HEXA. People are so stupid.

    I think your baby is beautiful beyond words. So beautiful I would kiss 'em on the cheek right now if I could.

    Cheers for being such an awesome mama and boo on delivery lady.

    xo

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  17. I cannot believe she said that! Good for you for pulling out the mommy claws! {and You've Got Mail is my all time favorite...just ask my hubby, even he can quote the entire movie :)}

    www.littlemomentsinlife.com

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  18. Are you kidding me!? I can't believe how rude some people are. You GO MAMA! Your boy is beautiful and perfect and made in the image of CHRIST! My daughter has a large birth mark on her bum and when she was born the first thing the nurse said to me was "THAT'S A BIG BIRTH MARK" with a shocked look on her face. Some nerve. She's perfect though and I love her birth marked tushy!

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  19. I really cannot believe the nerve of some people. He is absolutely beautiful! You had every right to pull out the Mommy Claws.

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  20. That is probably the tackiest thing I've ever heard! Your little guy is absolutely precious. People really shock me sometimes, but you seemed to be super classy about it (claws and all).

    Allyson
    http://cupcakescandycanes.blogspot.com

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  21. My mom always said birthmarks are angel kisses!(and I know you totally don't want to revisit the situation,but I would launch a complaint about that employee!Someone like that shouldn't be working with the public!) And kudos to you for speaking your mind and defending your absolutley perfect,precious adorable,handsome little boy!Mamas,unite!( :

    ~Anna (momma to Olivia,2, and Gibson, 8 months)

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  22. people can be so ridiculous. my 3 month old baby boy has a birthmark on his foot and i think it's beautiful too. I try to not worry about what others think of it-if he wants to get it removed someday that's up to him-keep your comments to yourself! :)

    http://babybakerlove.blogspot.com/

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  23. Are you serious? That is ABSURD!! You go girl for telling her off! People are so ignorant. And I think birth marks are awesome! Besides, once his hair grows in thicker it won't even be noticeable any more, so why would kids make fun of him? What an idiot. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

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  24. I just came across your blog from "Eat Yourself Skinny" and your post reminded me of one of my posts. Please check it out and thank you for sharing your mommy claw moment we all have them, but it also always feels better to hear about other mommy claw moments. Your little boy is adorable :)

    http://feistyfam.blogspot.com/2011/08/i-guess-well-find-out_18.html

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  25. I didn't even know there were such rude people in the world! :O Your son is absolutely GORGEOUS!

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  26. UM. What?! I can't believe she had the audacity to say something like that to you! Sounds like you handled it with amazing grace an I applaud you for it!

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  27. I don't get it! I really don't get the stupidity of some people.

    This little guy is such a cutie!!

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  28. People are so rude! I would have told her you will see what her supervisor's opinion is on her comment. Good for you for handling it so well!

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  29. I can't believe that!! I have one on my arm and yes kids asked me about it but I don't remember being teased. Plus it's on his head! He will have a full head of hair someday. I am so glad you said something and didn't just bite your tongue. Davis is perfection:)

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  30. Girl, GOOD FOR YOU. I can't believe she would say something so rude to you. She is L-U-C-K-Y she wasn't talking about 5ohBaby or she would be even sorrier than she must have already been when she came in contact with you .

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  31. Oh good for you!!! You answered it perfectly. Just showing her how inappropriate and rude she was.

    My Mommy claws came out once in an airport when an incredibly rude 12 year old boy said to my 5 year old daughter "so you are what they call just stupid dumb" when she was trying to explain how much she liked the planes to him. (she had a language delay). I just told him "That no one calls my child stupid and that he could go back to his parents and wasn't welcome anywhere near me". They were right across the aisle. They never sent him back to apologize or even acknowledge it.

    People can be SO rude!!!

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  32. Great job taking the high road and putting her in her place!

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  33. Ummmmm..........What?!?! So glad you said what you said. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

    Give that sweet, handsome Davis baby a kiss for me!!

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  34. Who says that?! That was very rude of her. It's barely even noticeable! My brother has a birthmark on his head... his hair covers it. And where his birthmark is his hair grows blonde. People always asked why mom dyed his hair... crazy people.

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  35. Wow. Just wow! Some people! Davis is a gem!

    So I have to share a moment I had at McDonalds the other day...I know, I know, I promised Kallie she could play at the park the day before and then is wasn't warm and "shinny" so we had to improvise. We had just sat down to eat, she has to eat first, and I was doing a "kids in the play place assessment". Do other mom's do this? IDK, maybe its just me, but this one little one caught my attention. He was in his pijamas and was about 3. No parental supervision. He was a hitter. Not just one whack and then done...repeated hitting. One Dad told his kid to hit him back. Well, I am THAT MOM that will parent your kid if you are not and it involves my kid. So I very nicely went up to him and said "we don't hit, it's not nice." so what did he do? He SPIT IN MY FACE! No really, he spit in my face! His mom had no idea, she was sitting in the corner using the free wifi and skyping someone. She would shoo him away every time he came close. For real! We didn't even stay and play. Kallie and I agreed that we didn't want to play with someone like that. This time I didn't talk to the Mom. I regret it to this moment. I was so tired and knew that if I did, I wouldn't be as nice as I should be so I refrained. I feel bad for the little boy! They were there before we got there and didn't look like they were leaving anytime soon. UGH!

    I am so sorry this happend to you! People have no boundaries sometimes! Davis is beautiful and I think what you did was absolutely perfect! Just enough to make this lady think about what she did and hopefully think twice next time.

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  36. Wow. Some people just have no social skills!! In no galaxy is it appropriate to say something like that...to anyone!!
    You go, mama. :)

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  37. Awww. You're a great mom Jenna! His birthmark *is* beautiful it's too bad that some people only see skin-deep.

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  38. What a rude woman! And I am glad you used your claws, she deserved them.

    i think he is beautiful birthmark and all.

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  39. ha ha love this post! amazing how rude people can be especially when it comes to children. Your son is adorable, birthmark and all!

    New follower to your cute blog! :)

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  40. Grrr at the delivery lady!

    I almost had this yesterday, I was parking at the supermarket and the parking space was a tight squeeze because the lady next to me had parked almost on the edge of her "square". Lo and behold, didn't she appear just in time to see me finish parking next to her. I was so ready to say "my car is exactly and precisely in the middle of my square - look where your car is parked" if she had said anything. She didn't. I was disappointed - for once I knew what to say and didn't have the chance. xxx

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  41. Um... You are my hero! Good for you for getting the mommy claws out and putting her in her place. Hopefully she can learn this lesson because next time, someone might have her job for it!

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  42. Some people are just ignorant!! Yay for you!!

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  43. oh my gosh. is this for reals? i am so appalled! what a b****!

    girl, your son is beautiful and can i just tell you 100% honestly that i have NEVER even noticed or realized he had a birthmark until right.this.moment.
    that's because he's so darn cute i barely noticed it! and it's beautiful

    so proud of you!!!!!

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  44. OMG. What a Witch with a B! He's PERFECT!!! Besides, when his hair starts growing in more you probably won't even notice it. I often get nitpicked at for my limp and my lazy eye "ARE YOU EVEN LOOKING AT ME? That is rude not to make eye contact when I'm speaking to you." is quite popular. I have a disability, get over it!

    Remy / Cinnamon Bubbles

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  45. Say what?? Oh I would have slapped her... I would call and complain to the brown truck people. That women does not need to be driving around making comments like that to customers. And I'm with Heather, I have never noticed his birthmark. I had a huge birthmark on my back growing up (it seriously looked like a potato tattoo) and I loved it. I was sad when I had to get it removed for other reasons- but good for you for getting your claws out. So proud of you and love you and your handsome baby!!
    xo

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  46. having been teased my entire life about something similar I have learned that people are complete morons and she probably didn't learn a thing, if she had any intelligence at all she wouldn't have said anything. That being said, good for you & handling it as well as you did. I may not have acted out so dignified. I always like to say "I don't enjoy confrontation but I am not scared of it" If I am offended or made fun of - I will always stick up for myself and that doesn't have to mean by putting the other person down! Bravo to you!

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  47. Way to go!!! What you said was exactly spot on. She need to hear that. I'm surprised she didn't try to apologize. Recently someone told my adopted daughter that if our new business doesn't do well, we will send her back to Ethiopia---if I ever find out who said that to her I will let my mom claws fly too! Here is the post about my mom lion coming out in me http://www.raisingforeverfamilies.com/?p=1006

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  48. love that you said something! i usually defer and let things go while secretly holding in my anger... but it's more because i never know what to say at that right moment... good for you! i'm new to the blogging world, so i haven't posted about any "claw" moments yet, but feel free to check my blog out!
    http://taylormadefamilylife.blogspot.ca/

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  49. I recently stumbled upon your blog and LOVE it! You have officially been added to my favorites bar! I have an 8 month old little boy so I know the deep connection between a little boy and his mama. Your little man is BEAUTIFUL.....shame on that lady!!!

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  50. Jenna, I am so glad you stood up to that witch, I can't believe there are adults in this world who think that type of behavior is acceptable. Your little man is so stinkin cute, and the only effect that birthmark has on his sweet perfection is adding more character! And I will tell you that my Dad grew up with a large birthmark on his head, and not once did he ever get made fun of or have anyone belittle him because of it!

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  51. High five to you for not punching her!

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  52. Since I've become a Mom I've learned that people really say dumb things. Most of the time I've found it's older people, who should know better than to blurt things out. I love the way you handled it.

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  53. I'm new to your blog and am so glad you called that woman out on how inappropriate and insensitive her comments were. You're setting a wonderful example of how a strong person conducts themselves.

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  54. Pretty sure you are much much nicer than I am! :) I am honestly just shocked that some stranger would have the balls to say something like that. He is precious in every way imaginable!

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